Softcup Menstrual Cup Review

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Meet the Instead Softcup, a disposable menstrual cup. To be honest with you, I debated whether or not to review the Softcup because of its disposable nature. While they now offer a reusable option, it is still meant to be a disposable product. The ‘reusable’ cup is meant only for a single period and the regular Softcup is to be disposed of after each use. When it came down to it I decided to do the review because, above all else, my hope is that all women use safe products and know their options. I believe that the Softcup is a safe alternative to traditional tampons and pads that use non-organic cotton and synthetic fibers and is a good option for women choosing safe & healthy feminine hygiene products.

I was a long time tampon user and when the idea of “menstrual cups” came up it wasn’t really something that I jumped up to check out right away. I kept hearing about them and how great they were and eventually my curiosity got the best of me – and I’m so thankful that it did! Cups are eco-friendly, super convenient, comfortable and above all else menstrual cups are safe. They don’t contain the toxins that most disposable products do, some of which have been linked to Endometriosis, fertility issues and even cancer. They also have no known link to Toxic Shock Syndrome, which can be deadly and difficult to recognize.

In addition to those amazing qualities and the Softcup is easy to use. The first thing I noticed was that the Softcup is inserted differently than a tampon or silicone menstrual cup. Perhaps this is an odd analogy but when you are sitting think of the cup as a “drawer” (yea, like cabinetry). To insert the Softcup you will squeeze the sides of the band to flatten the ‘O’ and then insert being sure to get the cup just behind the cervix and then tilting the front of the band up slightly to get a secure fit. To remove you’ll just slip your finger under the rim of the cup and pull it out level (kind of like a drawer). Once removed you can simply empty the cup.  If that didn’t make any sense, check out the video demonstration below:


The Instead Softcup can be worn for up to 12 hours (convenient!), is great for swimming, sports and any other strenuous activities – like sex. Yes ladies – sex. Unlike any other menstrual product you can have sex with the Softcup in. As you saw in the video above, the Softcup is made up primarily of a very thin, pliable layer of material and fits similarly to the way a diaphragm does – allowing you to enjoy a mess-free sexual relationship with your partner if you choose.

As they say, “Softcups have no wings, no strings . . . just freedom!”

The Softcup is available in two styles – Disposable (single use) and Reusable (use for a single cycle and then dispose). The two cups are virtually identical, with the exception of the material that they are made from – and the color.  Check out the photo and clip below to see the two side by side.


I think that the Softcup is a great option for women. I love the benefits over traditional products – hands down. I find the cups to be very comfortable. Once inserted, I don’t notice it a bit.  It is basically all but forgotten – which is fantastic. Who wants to worry about their menstrual product all day?  Another nice thing about the Softcup is how extremely easy it is to insert – no folding, twisting, or fidgeting – simply squeeze, insert, done. The ease of insertion is definitely nice for anyone who may be worried about the use of slightly more complicated products. Something else worth noting is that these products can be found basically anywhere. I even spotted them at my local, small town grocer!

What I didn’t care for was the removal of the cup. I felt a bit of pressure when removing the cup and I found it to be a little messy. I didn’t spill anything or get anything on me, it was just the general size and surface area of the cup that allowed for a bit more to clean than I am use to. For the disposable product, I see no issue with this whatsoever. Removal was simple so tossing it into the waste would be a breeze and ideal for when a woman may need to empty the cup in public or that are completely uninterested in a reusable product.  The reusable version would not be quite as simple to use and rinse in public – though a small squirt water bottle could be handy to have for in-stall rinsing.

If you have any questions about the Instead Softcup please post them below and I will do my best to answer them. If you have used the product, please join the conversation and share your experience!

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Christina September 11, 2012 at 4:06 pm

Interesting. I’ve never heard of this brand. Would love to try!


Lisa G. September 11, 2012 at 4:13 pm

I bet it would be a good option for travel – especially in disgusting bathrooms where you can’t wash out your reusable cup as freely!


Jenny September 11, 2012 at 4:18 pm

I love that it is an alternative to pads and tampons! I really want to try a cup!


Michelle September 11, 2012 at 4:25 pm

I found these at Wal-mart and decided to give them a try. I was actually using the disposable and rinsing it out for my entire period.

Pros: I can wear these before I start and don’t have to worry about accidents or toxic shock syndrome. Plus, you really can have sex while wearing one, I tried it. I was told that he didn’t even notice (the first time I said something, after that I didn’t). Insertion and removal was never an issue for me, but I’ve also been using applicator free tampons my entire life. Also, there is never any smell or lack of freshness, especially on the light days when a tampon is not an option. And finally, I loved only using one product per month, rather than a whole box of tampons/pads.

Cons: I have a very heavy first two days of my period and the cup had some leakage even when emptied on a regular (2 hour) basis. I eventually purchased a Diva Cup instead which does a much better job at staying in place and not leaking. With any menstrual cup, emptying and reinserting in public restrooms is somewhat of a hassle. I end up using a lot of toilet paper to wipe my hands before exiting the stall and washing them with soap and water. Of course, at home, I can stay seated on the toilet and rinse the cup in the sink without the additional TP waste.

On a whole I would recommend any menstrual cup over pads/tampons any day of the month. I additionally use reusable pads as backup to my cup. I bought mine on Etsy but there are some on Amazon as well. I bought a pack of 6 and I throw them in the laundry with everything else.


Amanda September 11, 2012 at 5:33 pm

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with the Softcup!


Anonymous April 10, 2014 at 3:17 pm

I purchased a box of disposable latex gloves to keep with my Soft Cups. When you go pull the cup out, put on one of the gloves, reach in, grab the cup, palm it, then slide your index finger from your free hand under the gloved hand at the wrist. Gently pull the wrist of the glove up and over the “dirty” Soft Cup until it is completely folded away inside your inside-out glove. MUCH cleaner and makes for handy disposal!


Amy Bailey September 12, 2012 at 12:43 am

I hear they are fairly effective when trying to make a baby. So thats great!


Anonymous August 19, 2013 at 4:57 am

You can’t make a baby during your period. You bleed because the egg didn’t attach this time.


Anonymous August 22, 2013 at 1:22 pm

Seriously? Never mind that you can’t get pregnant during your period – You really think a barrier device that’s basically the same as diaphragm birth control is effective when trying to get pregnant? Wow…


tessa March 2, 2014 at 8:37 am

they mean that after he ejaculates inside you then use the cup to KEEP it in there.


michelle August 25, 2013 at 2:14 am

They are used not during your period, but during your ovulation. And instead of putting it in before you have sex, you have sex without it in, then put it in after to “trap” the sperm against your cervix, giving more of them a better chance to fertilize an egg.


renee September 15, 2013 at 4:19 am

Burn…lol…anonymous bitches


Crystle November 19, 2013 at 11:15 pm

OK ladies……I am new to the soft cup. I am not as worried about using them as much as I am wearing one during sex. So here I go…. I’m gunna give this new freedom thing a try. Thank you all so much for the reviews. They were all very helpful.


Queen of Cups September 12, 2012 at 11:21 am

I haven’t tried them yet but I’m curious, the fact you can have sex with them is a plus. The reusable soft cup is more attractive to me even though I wish they would make one more durable. I sell them on my store for 5.60€ for a pack of 2.


Heather September 14, 2012 at 2:39 pm

I tried these a few years back thinking they would be a diva cup or keeper alternative. I didn’t like it. :( I had major problems with leaks and couldn’t really get past that aspect to see anything positive about it.


Beth December 4, 2012 at 3:46 pm

The reason Softcup came out with a one-cycle “reusable” cup is because women were already using a softcup for a whole cycle! I bought a packet over two years ago, before there was such a distinction, and I have yet to run out. I just wash it thoroughly and store it in a cotton pouch between cycles, same as my Diva cup. (Admittedly I only use softcups for sex, so I end up wearing it about two nights per cycle.)
Watching the video, it is very clear that the new “original” Softcups are much flimsier than the ones I bought two years ago. The new cup is completely see-through! I have one of the old ones in my hand right now, and there’s no way I could see my fingernail through it– more like a fuzzy finger-shaped object.
Then again, the reusable one is sturdier-looking than the old ones.


michelle December 9, 2012 at 3:46 pm

Well I have to say these cup DO NOT WORK!they are messy and they do leak each name brand of the menstrual cups says you can wear them for 12 hours infant it’s not true, when I use the cup while inserted properly it leaks within 30 minutes and it’s extremely messy the truth is is that these cups are not meant for heavy blender and if you think about it the cup is not capable of holding that much blood in a 12 hours period it’s impossible! If a woman bleeds for 7days while using the cup it should cut her time short by 3days if the cup itself could hold your flow for 12hours now,I think these cups should be made to suit the type of flow each woman has lite,moderate, heavy,or extremely heavy flow and each cup should have different sizes….the cup is a fantastic idea but it’s was not made with the intention that every woman’s body us not the same and we all have different types of menstrual cycles


Anonymous August 22, 2013 at 1:25 pm

No… Definitely not intended for the heavy blender…


bekahlou75 September 23, 2013 at 11:46 am

Maybe not for light blenders eithers…..just sayin’.


Meems December 27, 2012 at 11:12 am

I bought these because I wanted to try out a menstrual cup before buying something more reusable (and expensive) and happened to see them at my local drug store. My flow is on the lighter end, even at its heaviest; I could easily wear this for 12 hours on the first day of my period without any problems. I have read that there is sometimes some leakage when you go to the bathroom with it in, but I haven’t had any issues with that yet. I definitely like that it can be used during sex, too. I do plan on buying a Divacup or something similar, but I expect I’ll keep some Softcups around, since they can do a few things that other menstrual cups can’t.

As a side note: I used a Nuvaring for about five years, and, while the Softcup is slightly larger and a bit more rigid, insertion was essentially the same, which made it pretty easy for me to get used to.


Brittani January 18, 2013 at 2:31 am

I like how the cups are designed, however I have an abnormally short vagina and large cervix. The softcup is not a one size fits most thing. Even inserted properly I could still feel it, though not as bad as a Tampon. I have no idea how people can sex with these things and the guy not feel a thing.


Monica February 5, 2013 at 5:58 pm

do these things actually worj and what would be the difference bwtween this and the diva cup?


tessa March 2, 2014 at 8:49 am

ive been using them about 5 cycles now. sometimes it leaks, but i honestly believe its a placement issue, it does take some time to find the right spot to leave it. the difference i find between the 2 items, is that, they are shaped totally different, one is a flat disk shape, one is more of a odd shot glass shape. ive tried a couple shaped like the diva cup, but i find the stem to irritate my walls inside. where as the softcup ring shape doesnt have that. the diva is less messy to remove. some people have cut the stems off altogether but it is then harder (at least for me) to remove. i personally LOVE the shape of SoftCup, for me its easier to insert, and i didnt feel them as much as other diva cup styles. i just wish they were as “reusable” as the diva type cups are. i love the thought of 10-15 YEARS for one. but im also contacting SoftCup to see how many cycles the SoftCup CAN be used for with proper care (ie. cleaning and keeping it ventilated for storage). GL i personally LOVE these types of products!! wish they were more popular than tampons and pads!!


Sammy April 5, 2013 at 4:58 am

I came across SoftCup from an ad on a website I was on. Me and my boyfriend don’t see each other on a daily basis because of his career as a surgeon, so when we do see each other we are without a doubt having sex lol. I’d always be bummed when our date nights would land on my menstrual cycle, so after reading on the website that you could have sex with no mess with the cup in, I was very much intrigued! I’m 23 and have always used tampons, I was hesitant about being able to put it in correctly but voila! First try it fit perfectly and I couldn’t feel a thing. I made sure I was sitting down while inserting and pushed it in as far as it would go then made sure the front of it was up behind the pubic bone and covers my cervix. I told my bf about it and so we had sex. I was so nervous he would feel it because just sticking my finger in I could feel it. But rest assure he kept on laughing saying he couldn’t even tell it was there. We only had sex missionary as I was afraid to do crazy positions with it in. I don’t know why but for some reason sex feels even better with it in for some reason. Anyways all in all, I’ll still use tampons on my first days but then I switch to the cup. I LOVE it!! No cons at all and I’ve never had it leak, not once. I especially love it because of how safe it is in comparison to tampons and way less messy and bulky than pads. I had a very bad experience with tampons. I stupidly left one in for three weeks without knowing (long story. I had to cut the string for a specific reason and went to sleep forgetting it was there and it migrated up and went to the gyno to find I had a tampon in me for three whole weeks! I’m so lucky I never got TSS!) anyways I feel so much safer with this new alternative.


Casey April 20, 2013 at 10:09 am

You said vigorous activity, would horse back riding or training work out ok? And if I have a very friable cervix it won’t mess with that either right? I am very interested in this. I hve never hear of this before but tampons are just outrageous! Price and the pain!


Amanda April 22, 2013 at 9:01 am

Cups are great for those with high activity levels. I do not believe that it would mess with your cervix. I have some sensitivity and have never been bothered by mine. I agree that tampons are a pain – in so many ways! The SoftCup is not like other cups and is not actually my preferred type, though it is a nice up to try out. I would suggest you look into a silicone cup like those mentioned at the link below – I find that they are preferred by most women who try them.

This post is helpful if you’re having trouble deciding what cup to buy (though I truly think most women will be happy with most any one they try)


Megan K April 28, 2013 at 12:08 pm

I tried the softcup last night for the first time. It was reasonably easy to insert, although weird on the first time. I didn’t trust it completely so I wore a pad too. I went to sleep and figured it would definitely leak during the night but it didn’t leak at all! I was impressed! Even tampons usually leak like half the time. The bad part tho, in my opinion, was taking it out. It was hard to get a grip on the side of the cup, and I panicked a little thinking ‘what if I can’t get it out?? ‘ but I finally got a grip on it and pulled it out, trying to keep out horizontal like the directions say.. maybe it was because it was my first time but taking it out was very messy. With pissed and tampons you can’t smell the blood but with this you definitely can and it made me nauseous. It wasn’t overall am entirely horrible experience but next time when I take it out, I’ll probably be in the shower!


Megan K April 28, 2013 at 12:15 pm

Ugh autocorrect. Make that *PADS and tampons not pissed and tampons. *sigh*


Amanda April 28, 2013 at 1:00 pm

LMAO, that’s hilarious! I definitely agree with you that they are a bit messy. That is one of the reasons I prefer the silicone ‘bell’ style cups. They aren’t messy like these tend to be. I tend to think of removing the SoftCup like pulling open a drawer, as weird as that sounds – trying to keep it level and all. So happy to hear that you had a reasonably pleasant experience despite the removal aspects, though I’m sure experience will help with that.


Nikkiautumn76 January 9, 2014 at 12:17 pm

Although this is an older post I think I will reply anyway as to help other new users of this product or women considering the use of this product. Yes, you definitely have to be comfortable with your body in order to use the Softcup. But on the contrary to the above experience with removal & the “smell” I would be a bit concerned myself if I were to remove a Softcup & “smell” the blood more than with the use of a pad or tampon. As blood doesn’t “smell” as stated until it is exposed to the air & starts to decompose. As nasty as that sounds truth be told. You should “smell” more of an unpleasant odor when using tampons or pads. Not so much with a Softcup or any other type “Cup” placed within the vaginal canal. As the blood isn’t exposed to the air until you remove the cup. 1st time users may have issues with spillage, or “messes” but that should get better with use & learning to keep the cup level & slow & steady removal techniques. Anyone who smells unpleasant blood with a cup in my opinion should see their doctor just to be sure there is no underlying issues as this is not what I would consider to be normal.

I am a Certified Medical Assistant & 1st time user of Softcup in Ohio


Amber April 28, 2013 at 3:25 pm

I just picked some of these up from Walmart. I put it in as far as I could and made sure it was up behind my pubic bone. Couldn’t feel a thing! I was so excited. But about 5 minutes later I cough and could feel it slipping out. Went and checked on it, sure enough it had popped out from behind my public bone. Pushed it back up and the same thing happened just a short while later (minus the cough), I’m so bummed. Any ideas on what I’m doing wrong?! I have a feeling it just doesn’t fit. I don’t feel like I’m getting it in far enough.


Anonymous February 22, 2014 at 7:46 pm

Amber, you are probably going “up” rather than at the correct flat angle. You might try sitting on the edge of the bathtub rather than the toilet, and be sure that you are going straight back rather than up. Think of it as trying to keep the Softcup parallel to the floor.


Vanessa May 8, 2013 at 4:28 pm

Thanks for the review! I am thinking of trying menstrual cups. I have a love/hate relationship with tampons but feared the messiness of dealing with a menstrual cup. I’ve heard a lot of great things about them. Looking forward to trying one :)


Tia May 10, 2013 at 10:39 am

Hello all I have been interested in using the softcup after seeing it in Walgreens. I told my friends about it and to be truthful I that it was a gross idea but my curiosity is getting the better of me. Saying that I had a few questions with tampons I tend to get stomach pains when using then will that happen with the cup? Can it shift n u sit or stand up? If youp push it in to far is it easy to get out? I’m willing to give this a shot but scared at Tue same time, .I started out with using pads as a teen and then my sister got me to us tampons and I never looked back I hope I can say the same for these.


tessa March 2, 2014 at 8:58 am

tampons absorb, so they tend to make u dry and plus all the chemicals in them (and pads) could have been the cause of pain. some cramps are natural, its just part of the prepossess. it does move with u, but its not just going to fall out, as long as u have it placed right, and it does take a min to learn the right spot. ive been using about 5 cycles now and some times leak, it might be harder for me tho, i have arthritis in my spin so bending is always easy for me.
the directions say to hook ur finger up and pull out… i personally find it (altho more messy) to hook ur finger down and pull out… its not hard to get it, unless u have short fingers, or your deeper in others… id say im avg. on both and its easy. Good luck .. i LOVE them


Tia May 10, 2013 at 10:41 am

Hello all I have been interested in using the softcup after seeing it in Walgreens. I told my friends about it and to be truthful I that it was a gross idea but my curiosity is getting the better of me. Saying that I had a few questions with tampons I tend to get stomach pains when using then will that happen with the cup? Can it shift n u sit or stand up? If youp push it in to far is it easy to get out? I’m willing to give this a shot but scared at Tue same time, .I started out with using pads as a teen and then my sister got me to us tampons and I never looked back I hope I can say the same for these. When you pee can it be pushed out?


Stephanie May 31, 2013 at 8:58 pm

I just went to the store today and bought my first ever cup. I’m 30 years old and thought I with the times, but boy was I wrong. I heard of these products while reading a bicyclist column. I had never heard of such a thing and had to investigate. I was hesitant to spend 30.00 on a product that may last for 10 years but if I didn’t like it what’s the point? I found this product online and was pretty psyched. 9.00 I could spend to see if the others would be worth the investment. I went to my local walgreens and found it on thr top shelf next to the lube. I went home, read the instructions and walaa had it in in no time. I even took it out to see what it would be like in n the non comfort of home. Today is day 1 of my cycle and It seems to be one of the best things to date that I have spent money on. I feel that every young woman should be introduced to this product.


April June 17, 2013 at 3:59 pm

I am a long time Diva Cup user (10 years). I was caught off guard with an early period while out of town so I purchased a box of Soft Cups (since using the Diva Cup I swore I would never go back to tampons). I was pleased with the Soft Cups and now keep them in my purse and gym bag just in case. I still prefer the Diva Cup, but this is definitely my second option. I plan on taking them camping since washing the Diva Cup is not ideal in those situations.

Great review.


sarah July 10, 2013 at 12:06 pm

First off the idea is great , however the product not so great . Now if you are someone who doesn’t have a heavy period , this might be the best product ever! But if you are like me , then buyer beware . This product leaks , it is messy, if you are at all weak upon the sight of blood , you will not like this product. The bathroom looks like a murder has taken place in the toilet. I have gone through several panties and a few pairs of pants . Am I putting it in wrong ? I asked my self that too, however i have read the directions and i have watched every freaking tutorial there is , at this point , I might as well have nothing on or in . Maybe , there is something wonky with my internal plumbing , but at 36 and after two kids I think I would know. All I am saying is if you try this product wear back up !!!!


Lisa July 12, 2013 at 2:29 pm

I had been curious about the Diva cup for a while but had never acted on my curiosity. Then, last month, I saw a box of SoftCups in my local CVS and thought I’d give it a try. This morning, I got my chance for the first time.

I inserted the cup with no problems whatsoever. However, I did not see the instructions in the box (they are placed at the bottom, beneath all the product. Seriously??) and so I thought, “just like a diaphragm!” only to read later that it should, in fact, not be inserted like a diaphragm. I had no intention of leaving it in for 12 hours, especially on the first full day of my cycle and the first time using the SoftCup, and changed it after about 6 hours. I experienced very slight leakage during urination and, like the instructions said, no other leakage at all. However, while insertion was a breeze it was a little challenging, and pretty messy, to remove. I had a moment of panic (after all, I’d just read that I’d inserted it wrong to begin with — I was now afraid I wouldn’t be able to get it out!) but really my problem was with the mess. Luckily I was at home, in the privacy of my own bathroom.

Despite the mess I will use them again. I haven’t seen the thicker ones that are intended to be used for the duration of a single cycle, but I will probably try those if I see them. If the mess continues to be problematic, and if the cup doesn’t really hold up to my heavy days, then I will definitely go out now and try the Diva (assuming I like the Diva, I imagine I’ll use those primarily and use the SoftCup for backup).


Amanda July 18, 2013 at 5:39 pm

I’m glad you gave these a try. I do love the silicone cups better but these are a great option too, despite the tricky removal. If given the choice of this or a tampon, I’d choose the SoftCup every time.


Keshia July 18, 2013 at 6:32 pm

I know it says you can have sex with it, does it limit your positions though?


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Tamara July 20, 2013 at 6:34 pm

Great review. For particular reasons of my own, I like pads and I’ll keep to them. But I’m definitely going to tell my mom about this. I’d never heard of this and neither has she, and my mom being a long time user of tampons is at risk for TSS; I don’t want her to get sick, so this sounds as a great alternative replacement for her.


Jennifer July 24, 2013 at 1:00 pm

Why do you have to throw away the reusable Softcup after one cycle? Why not just re-use it again and again?


Laura July 29, 2013 at 8:14 pm

I am trying this product for the first time. I hate, hate, hate pads and tampons so I am hoping this works well for me.

I have a very stupid question. When I am using a tampon, I know that blood when I wipe means I need to change. With this, does that mean I have it in wrong or that I might need to change it? Or is it normal?


tessa March 2, 2014 at 9:06 am

leakage when u pee is normal, as long as its not like “omg did i not put anything in” then it should be fine to leave in and not leak, (unless the 12hr mark is close) if in doubt just check it, and tuck it back if its slipped a little. u dont have to take it out to check.
that has happened to me too, and i wondered the same, ive been using for 5 cycles and its worked grate so far!!


claire stone July 31, 2013 at 4:49 pm

I just tried my first ever softcup – after trying with the mooncup, and always having problems – and I loved it. No leaks, no problems, nothing at all. I’d rather it wasn’t disposable, but it’s better than tampons, and my failed attempt with the mooncup. yeah! Def recommend people to give it a go.


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Noelle Mileski September 4, 2013 at 10:07 pm

I wanted to try a cup for awhile so I bought the Softcup at Wal Mart today. I put it in about four hours ago and so far so good. I took a bath and went to the bathroom with no leaks. I am interested to see how it does over the next couple of days since those are my heaviest. If it does well I’ll keep using it.


The Farseer September 7, 2013 at 8:59 pm

I just started using the Softcup and honestly, I have a love/hate relationship with it. I love the fact that it allows me to forget that I am on my period for about 5 hours, but I really hate the fact that 1.) It leaks far too much…Even when it isn’t anywhere near full! 2.) You can’t exactly sleep in these things….I have tried and the stupid thing leaked..luckily I had an overnight pad to back me up. 3.) It’s tricky just to insert the thing right. 4.) It’s sooo messy. To be honest it is a pain wearing these things. It almost makes me regret spending five bucks just buying these things. I don’t see how a woman can have sex with these things in….it doesn’t go far back enough to even say hello to sex. I really have to give this product one star….I would rather use tampons and pads. So much better than the soft cup.


Cheryl October 8, 2013 at 1:45 pm

I’ve just tried softcup for the first time. I have mixed feelings about them. I have heavy periods and usually go through a super+ tampon in about 2 hours. Well the softcup did not leak overnight, 9 hours. Now thinking around during the day, about 6 hours and I noticed during urination that it was leaking. No big deal 6 hours is good, but it’s in the removal that my mixed feelings begin. The moment my finger made contact with the rim it poured out. It was so messy and if this is the way it’s going to be then I don’t think I’ll be able to make the switch. I’m hoping that it’s a learning curve and maybe I tipped it without realizing or it was overly full. I wanted to love it because it’s comfortable and works better than tampons which I’ve always had to backup with pads anyway. I’ll keep trying… Do others have an easier time with the removal?.. I’d like to know if anyone else struggled with the mess but eventually got it to work in a cleaner manner.


Amanda Hearn October 21, 2013 at 1:21 pm

There can definitely be a learning curve for any cup. I found the SoftCup to be messiest of the cups I have tried (though all others I’ve tried are a more ‘bell’ shaped silicone cup). You might give one of them a try. They are very easy to use and the removal is much simpler, in my opinion.


Jenna October 10, 2013 at 11:43 am

I am on my first cycle with Softcup and so far I love it. I am not squeamish about my body but can see how it might freak some people out. I tried the Diva cup a few years ago and found it painful and leaky (I gave it 3 cycles to see if it got better and it never did)- figured it was an anatomy issue. I had a coupon for the Softcup so I decided to try it and I couldn’t be more pleased.

As I have gotten older my (always pretty heavy) periods have become seriously heavy – super tampon every 2 hours heavy feeling like I am hemorrhaging (ha). I hated dealing with having to wear tampons and pads all the time especially at work.

Here is the TMI portion: The softcup was easy for me to insert and I have not had 1 leak. I read some reviews before I used it and found that you can expel some of the blood by bearing down while sitting on the toilet without having to remove it. I tried it on a very heavy day and was able to do just that – it was a surprisingly easy maneuver then it went right back to the correct position (I checked it just in case). I have had no leaks overnight and I LOVE waking up in the morning and not having to deal with the gush and I have time to wake up before I have to deal with it so I am not so bleary-eyed. Removing it has not been a problem for me- I have had no trouble reaching it and as long as you keep it level it does not spill. I would not want to deal with removing or changing it in a public restroom but I should not have to as I can empty it some while on the toilet hands free. I have been using 1 cup over 24 hours and cleaning it once during that time. I may try using one longer on my next cycle. I have not had sex with it in but now that I am past my heaviest days I will give it a go. My sex drive disappears during PMS but comes roaring back after a day or 2 on my period so my husband should be thrilled!

I am planning to keep using it and like another poster said I am having that Elaine feeling of wanting to stockpile them in case they get hard to find.


Kyung Min October 11, 2013 at 3:09 am
Andrea October 14, 2013 at 8:51 pm

I love Instead SoftCups but I’m also a NuvaRing user. Since my period overlaps I have both in at once. I can put in the NuvaRing first, then the softcup. Sometimes they come out together with the NuvaRing sitting inside the cup along the inside pink liner.

My main concern and question is this: Is wearing a softcup slightly housing the NuvaRing making the NuvaRing ineffective? I’ve been surfing online all night with no answer.



Phree October 20, 2013 at 7:23 am

Hi there…. it states on the warning label clearly not to use if wearing any kind of iud.


Amanda Hearn October 21, 2013 at 1:14 pm

I’m not terribly familiar with the NuvaRing, but I am happy to ask on my Facebook wall. Someone may have an answer for you.


Lisa February 10, 2014 at 9:58 pm

the Nuva Ring only works if it is against the tissue, therefore if it goes inside the softcup it will have reduced effectiveness. The best bet would actually be to ask the pharmacist. However, you would probably have better luck with inserting the cup first, then the ring, using the ‘bear down to empty’ trick and when you finally do remove the cup, you will need to reinsert the ring (which is not a problem for protection so long as you insert it right away).


Brittany October 22, 2013 at 12:54 pm

Ever since I’ve tried to have sex with the soft cup, I’ve been in pain. It hurts to wear, to put in, to take out, etc. This is my first period using them and I would LOVE to continue, but I don’t know what happened. My husband and I had to stop sex because of the pain (and we really were gentle). Any ideas? :( I’m so upset about this.


Amanda November 30, 2013 at 5:31 pm

I must just have an extremely heavy flow because every type of cup I’ve ever tried to use has had issues with leaks. I really wanted to love the softcup but it just wasn’t to be… I also wonder if something about the way I hold myself when I sit is unusual because if I’ve been reclining for a while, when I stand up there is a heavy gush. This one was a particularly bad offender for this. If you have a normal flow, I found this one incredibly comfortable and easy to use. Just not for me.


rocks December 20, 2013 at 5:02 pm

My neighbor is a happy user, for quite some time. I’m starting now. Agrees with its messy to change all the time so she said that rather changing it all the time, she can just go to the restroom and she can bear down as if she pushing for a baby and it empties through the lowest part, with no mess, and she’s good for quite some time again. She removes only before shower time, cleans and replaces it and is good for the day. And to wear a light pad just in case. I know this sounds odd to me too, but hey, tampons are sooo destructive and dirty to me.


Lisa February 10, 2014 at 9:55 pm

I do this “bear down” also and it works great. It is also the reason why sometimes people leak if they cough or sneeze too hard


Emily February 7, 2014 at 11:23 am

I really really love softcups!! I’ve always disliked tampons, the inconvenience or them and how often I have to dispose of them, as well as having to buy them. My mom found softcups for me because I couldn’t use the Lunette cup. Apparently, being young, a virgin and not used to any cup product just made it impossible for me to insert the Lunette cup.
Softcup is much easier to insert, mostly because it’s smaller and is just more suited to slide in, I think. I will admit, I felt a little queasy the first few times I used it, but it’s in and done without any problems now. It does not have a completely leak free factor. I’ve had times where at the beginning of my cycle when my flow is heavier, I’ve sneezed or coughed and it’s broken the suction.
I will say this: it’s a good starter for younger women wanting to try something different, but just aren’t quite ready for the whole Divacup, or something like that. It’s much easier to insert, and gave me greater comfortableness in trying out my Lunette cup again, which, with a little hassle, I was finally able to fully insert. With the softcups, I cheat a little — the disposable ones are meant for only one use, but I actually rinse and reuse them for up to two days. The only difference between the disposable and the reusable to the heaviness of the material, and I’ve found it to be better savings to just buy the disposable and use them a bit longer.
Anyway, that’s my experience, and I’d definitely recommend Softcups to women wanting an easier transition from tampons to the menstrual cup.


Hannah February 9, 2014 at 10:44 pm

I wanted to try a reusable cup but was hesitant due to price –what if I don’t like it, etc. Then I saw the disposable kind at my walgreens and thought I would give them a try. I LOVE Them! I wish they sold the non disposable kind as well.

I do not have any issues with leakage (but then again my flow is not light but it is not a HEAVY flow). I leave these in for the full 12 hours without incident. I had not even had the slight leak while urinating :) I have not tried having sex with this in yet but I have had sex with a sponge in so I am assuming it will feel the same.

The only issue that I have had is the removal. I have a tilted cervix (always fun times at pap smear time) which makes it difficult to remove. I cannot hook my finger on it. I have figured out that I need to use 2 fingers for removal. I still pull it out level which helps with spillage but yes removal for me is messy. It is NOT a big deal though because I normally change it at home before bed.

I think I will try a washable cup soon.


Lisa February 10, 2014 at 9:52 pm

I have been using the disposable softcup for 2 cycles now. I really like it and don’t have a leaking problem. People who are having leaks might be ‘bearing down’ at some point which does cause a leak, however, this strategy can also be used strategically to empty the cup without actually needing to remove it.
My one problem is the firmness of the ring. No matter how far back I put it, I always end up with a cramp-like pain just above the pelvic bone. I know it is from the cup and I think it’s because the ring is so sturdy, I wish it was made of something a tiny bit more flexible or comfortable.
I plan to keep trying it for a few times to see if maybe I need to build up the wall (kind of like a vagina callus?) to bear the force against it?
Is the ring in the disposable any different? I can see from the video the cup part is, but my main issue is with the ring itself.


Nicole April 12, 2014 at 8:31 am

I have been using disposable soft cup for 3 cycles now and I have the same problem with the crampy pain. The ring also makes it somewhat difficult for me to urinate, I actually have to “bear down” significantly throughout urination to empty my bladder. I think the ring may be too wide for me and is pressing on my urethra. I wish it came in two diameters like most bell-shaped cups. I don’t want to build up a vaginal callus :)
I really like the cup, but I agree that it is extremely messy when removing. I have a heavy flow on the first two days and it works beautifully so far, only “leaking” when I have to bear down to urinate.


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